Replacing Lies with the Truth

This is the last day I'm going to blog about Lies we believe.  This one I think is a big one:
"I would be happy if.....(and you fill in the blank).  We believe that happiness is based on some set of circumstances working out right in our lives.  People always think that if they had more money they would be happy.  Well, we know that's not the case.  Just look at all the celebrities.  They have more money than they know what to do with and yet a lot of them  don't look happy to me.  Tiger Woods is an example of that.  He looked like he had it all but he must not have been happy.  Anyway, someone else might say, "I would only be happy if I had more stuff.  Or if I was married to somebody different.  On the radio show that I was listening to the guest said that the 2 most common e-mails that she gets are these:
1) I won't be happy unless I get married and 2) I am miserable in my marriage and I'm not going to be happy unless I can get out of it.  Interesting huh?

See, Satan's coming at us  with whatever we don't have, that's what he's going to throw at us.  Maybe it's I want a baby or more children.  Then we get them and we remember what life was like before kids! lol

But seriously, God is saying to us, you have to be happy in me and what I've called you to do or be.  So stop saying "why me?" with this whole list we're going over and start saying "What now?"

Life has a lot of unmet expectations.  Things we dreamed of that never happen.  So, we have to decide are we going to be unhappy and wish for something different or are we going to embrace our circumstances, trust God and become content.  Unmet expectations are breeding grounds for lies!

On the show they talked about how life happens. Husbands leave socks on the floor, they don't bring flowers etc.... and as women we think, "this is not what I thought it would be."  We feel unappreciated sometimes.   Then someone will give you a compliment or you talk to someone on the computer and you develop a mirage of a relationship - some kind of fantasy relationship with a guy.  But see, the guy on the computer doesn't leave his socks on the floor!  It's a lie.

So, what do you do if you've started believing these kinds of lies?  First, you have to realize that it is a lie.  D.L. Moody said, "In order to see if a stick is crooked, you don't argue about it, you don't denounce it, you simply lay a straight stick beside it.  Then you know it's crooked."  You've got to know God's word.  We have to immerse ourselves into his truth, then those lies start sticking out.

On the show they said, add "in Jesus name" to the end of that sentence and see how it feels to you.  "I can't do anything right...in Jesus name..."  or "I'd only be happy if I had a different husband...in Jesus name."  That doesn't work.  But, "I can love my husband, even though he's not meeting my needs, in Jesus name."

We have to reject the lies and replace it with the truth.  They gave this example on the show...
"my husband gets up at 5:30 everyday.  His alarm goes off, he takes a shower, shaves and brushes his teeth.  He leaves but I don't hear anything until my alarm goes off an hour later.  Why is that?  I'm so used to it.  I block it out."

That's how it is with believing those lies.  We get so used to it that we don't even realize that they are lies.  So ask God to show you the lies you are believing.  In order to replace the lies with the truth, that means you have to get in the truth!

Just a note, I don't feel unappreciated by my husband at all :)  Just summarizing the show because I think so many woman start thinking that the grass is always greener on the other side.   Be content with each other.  Remember why you fell in love?  I feel so blessed that our relationship as grown stronger through the years.  I said to a friend of mine once that we've been married for 20 years and that we just have a normal relationship.  She pointed out to me that my marriage was anything but normal.  That we are not the norm.  And I guess she's right.